Mental Wellness Archives - GirlSpring https://girlspring.com/tag/mental-wellness/ is an online community for girls (13-18) where all opinions are respected and welcome. Thu, 26 Feb 2026 19:01:48 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.5 /wp-content/uploads/2018/06/cropped-gs_icon-32x32.png Mental Wellness Archives - GirlSpring https://girlspring.com/tag/mental-wellness/ 32 32 Spring Is Not a Makeover https://www.girlspring.com/spring-is-not-a-makeover/ https://www.girlspring.com/spring-is-not-a-makeover/#respond Mon, 02 Mar 2026 14:00:50 +0000 https://www.girlspring.com/?p=36292 Spring is not a makeover.It doesn’t ask for before photosor proof you’ve changed enough. It shows up anywaythrough open windows,through sleeves rolled...

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Spring is not a makeover.
It doesn’t ask for before photos
or proof you’ve changed enough.

It shows up anyway
through open windows,
through sleeves rolled up without thinking,
through the quiet decision
to try again tomorrow.

The trees don’t rush it.
They don’t explain themselves
for standing bare all winter.
They trust green to arrive
when it’s ready.

I start doing the same.
Wearing the shoes I kept saving.
Raising my hand once.
Letting unfinished things
stay unfinished.

Some days I still feel small.
Some days I doubt myself.
But the light keeps finding me
on the walk home,
soft and steady.

Spring doesn’t ask me to be new.
Only present.
Only open.
Only brave enough
to grow in my own time.

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Addicted to the scroll? Try these 7 Creative Experiments https://www.girlspring.com/addicted-to-the-scroll-try-these-7-creative-experiments/ https://www.girlspring.com/addicted-to-the-scroll-try-these-7-creative-experiments/#respond Fri, 27 Feb 2026 14:00:05 +0000 https://www.girlspring.com/?p=36339 Over winter break, I cleared my browsing history and was SHOCKED to see how much time I blew on Instagram or YouTube....

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Over winter break, I cleared my browsing history and was SHOCKED to see how much time I blew on Instagram or YouTube. So while it felt like I spent hours writing college essays, most of the time was surfing the web “for inspiration.” Once all of my essays were in, I decided to get a head start on my New Year’s resolution: To create more, consume less. After all, I was graduating this year and wanted to study to live instead of living to study.

Although I stayed at home and it felt like I did practically nothing, I picked up a few new skills and felt more fulfilled than ever before.

Here are some of the things I tried: 

1. Reading

I had lots of books lying around at home that I hadn’t looked into. Currently, I’m in a nonfiction phase where I have the patience for good science writing and nothing else. I found Ways of Being by James Brindle and X+Y by Eugenia Cheng to be insightful. A few pages a day when there’s time to spare really compounds.

2. Coding

I will study computer science in college, so I refreshed my coding skills. If you don’t know how to code, W3Schools tutorials are a great place to start. I personally think that although AI can do low-level coding, it is still important to understand the logic behind programs. 

3. Baking cookies

This was my first time baking without the help of my parents. I followed a Preppy Kitchen recipe. My snickerdoodles had too much flour in them so they were spherical, but they still tasted good. It felt nice knowing I won’t starve in college since I could follow a recipe. 

4. Art

I haven’t drawn on paper in a long time, so I revived my creative muscles by sketching faces at various angles. Then I tackled a digital portrait on my iPad. It’s been a while, so I really needed to review how to shade and make my colors cooperate to convey value and form.

5. Origami

I especially love making 3D geometric shapes with modular origami. I could cut out 30 squares, fold them into units, and build a dodecahedron while watching a movie. It is very relaxing and rewarding to finish a polyhedron.

6. Physics

I was getting scared about AP Physics C Electricity and Magnetism, so I watched YouTube tutorials about electric fields and solving for voltage, current, and resistance in circuits. I hope that effort I put into physics now will pay off when it’s crunch time in April.

7. Starting a tutoring business

I’ve been teaching math with a company for a while, but I wanted to learn how to manage my own finances (and have emergency money for college). On New Year’s Day, I posted an ad into the city Facebook group and gained a client. I’m having my first sessions soon, so I’m excited so see how this goes! 

Hopefully, my creative experiments will inspire you to try new things and dream big this year. Happy 2026!

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Decking the Halls with Love, not Stress https://www.girlspring.com/decking-the-halls-with-love-not-stress/ https://www.girlspring.com/decking-the-halls-with-love-not-stress/#respond Fri, 19 Dec 2025 03:39:22 +0000 https://www.girlspring.com/?p=36218 During the holiday season, many people find themselves with cheer all around them, but stress within them. The American Psychology Association found...

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During the holiday season, many people find themselves with cheer all around them, but stress within them. The American Psychology Association found that nearly 9 in 10 adults feel stress for a variety of reasons regarding holiday times. Additionally, 43% say that “the stress of the holidays interferes with their ability to enjoy them. 

These alarming statistics highlight the impact of expectations in the season made to celebrating the birth of the One who has none for us. A season of giving that is wrecked by rather large expectations, and the stress of falling short. Making sure the person you give to is satisfied, impressing the in-laws while they are in town, continuing strict traditions, and more amount to load that is bigger than the amount of presents in Santa’s sleigh.

However, the cure to this issue seems to be rather simple: perspective. In the height of holiday stress, pointing back to the reason for the season is the solution. “We love because He first loved us” encompasses the root of what has turned into a stressful time. What is intended to be a season of love has transformed into stress surrounding the tangible things that convey love, as opposed to simply loving your neighbor. 

Recentering as the big day approaches is the best peace of advice for steering away from stress, and showing the Lord’s love in all facets of your life can mean more than simply gift. 

Happy holidays everyone!!

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Neurodivergence in Girls: Simplified https://www.girlspring.com/neurodivergence-in-girls-simplified/ https://www.girlspring.com/neurodivergence-in-girls-simplified/#respond Wed, 10 Dec 2025 15:00:23 +0000 https://www.girlspring.com/?p=35995 Neurodivergence Boys are four times as likely to have autism compared to girls. They are three times as likely to have ADHD...

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Neurodivergence

Boys are four times as likely to have autism compared to girls. They are three times as likely to have ADHD compared to girls. Boys are nearly three times as likely to have a learning disorder—such as dyslexia, dyscalculia, or dysgraphia—compared to girls.

Autism studies have a male-to-female ratio of 8:1 [1]. ADHD studies of a male-to-female ratio of 9:1 [2]. Studies on learning disorders have a male-to-female ratio of 3:2 [3].

That first paragraph makes more sense now, doesn’t it?

When teachers, counselors, and therapists are diagnosing an individual as neurodivergent, they look for specific characteristics and qualities based on studies of the possible diagnosis. However, when studies have a super-majority of male test subjects, the super-majority of diagnoses will be male. When mis- or undiagnosed, women and girls may go their whole lives without the understanding or support they need—simply because their neurological disorder doesn’t present itself in the same way it does in men. Now, to understand the influence gender has on neurodivergency, one must know what neurodivergency actually is, how it appears in girls versus boys, and the effect that undiagnosing has on women.

 

What is Neurodivergence?

According to the Cleveland Clinic [4], “The term ‘neurodivergent’ describes people whose brain differences affect how their brain works. That means they have different strengths and challenges from people whose brains don’t have those differences. The possible differences include medical disorders, learning disabilities, and other conditions.”

Historically, neurodivergent individuals have been ostracized by society and, in some cases, sent to insane asylums with very poor conditions and treatment. People with atypical brain functions were believed to be insane and even dangerous. Although today there is more acceptance of these divergences, many of these outdated beliefs remain deeply ingrained in modern culture and cause bullying, isolation, and harassment targeted at neurodivergent people. The fact of the matter is that neurodivergent people are not dangerous nor insane—their brains simply work a little differently than what is considered standard. Medicine, trauma, or any situation does not cause their brains to function differently; neurodivergence is genetic, just as having black hair or brown eyes is.

Masking

Before we get into the next section, we need clarification on what masking is. The Oxford Review has an article on masking that I encourage you to read. Still, the basic definition they give is: “Masking, in the context of neurodiversity, refers to the act of suppressing or camouflaging natural behaviors, thoughts, or responses in order to conform to neurotypical social expectations… Masking can involve mimicking social cues, forcing eye contact, hiding stimming behaviors, rehearsing conversations, or pretending to understand things when they don’t. It is often subconscious and habitual, particularly when someone has been masking for many years.”

 

Female vs. Male Neurodivergence

When people think of autism, they often think of a child or adult who cannot understand social cues for the life of them and is obsessed with trains, science fiction, or history. If someone thinks of ADHD, they often picture a person who is constantly energetic, loud, and impulsive. Or if people think of learning disabilities, they typically think of a person who has difficulty with speech, gets bad grades, and has trouble socializing. Although some of these stereotypes may apply to a few girls, they are, by and large, male neurodivergent traits.

Because of the severe understudying of the female divergent brain, it is actually unknown how these divergences appear in women. Additionally, even when they do emerge in women, they are less likely to show these traits because women are infamously good at masking. From a young age, girls can conceal their differences compared to their male peers.

Societal Expectations

While scientists speculate that something in the female brain makes women exceptional at masking, I believe society does this. Women have learned that the labels placed upon them are character attacks with lasting effects. Their male peers will “outgrow” their quirks. Think about it… when a boy cannot get social cues, he is a dork, a quirky trait. When a girl can’t, she is weird and awkward, a judgment about who she is. When a boy is energetic and loud, he is rambunctious, active, and spirited. Meanwhile, if a girl is, she is difficult and not ladylike– a failure to meet the feminine ideal. When a boy is struggling in school, he is just having a hard time and needs support. When a girl is, it clearly means she is just a pretty face, and school was never meant for her– a verdict on her intelligence. This imbalance teaches girls that mistakes and differences reflect their worth, so they hide them. It teaches boys that behavior is behavior, not identity.

Growing up with these differences, it is clear why girls are better at masking. Masking became a survival mechanism to get through every aspect of life when adults do not give girls the understanding or the support that boys have. Additionally, girls will start to show their divergences in ways that aren’t recognized, which is why “girls aren’t as prone to neurodivergence.”

 

The Consequences

A misdiagnosis or lack of diagnosis can have serious consequences, and women take the brunt of that fallout. At best, it means being misunderstood, dismissed, or ostracized by peers and even family members. At worst, it can mean being denied the medical or therapeutic support you genuinely need, falling behind in school or work, and developing additional mental health issues like depression and anxiety.

Being a suspected or confirmed neurodivergent girl is brutal, but the situation is not hopeless. The best thing you can do is advocate for yourself. Professionals and others will brush you off, ignore you, and underestimate you more than expected. Stand your ground and keep making noise until someone actually listens.

Educate yourself about yourself and find communities who will understand and support you. Most importantly, make sure you get the understanding, support, and treatment you deserve.

 

Citations

 

  1. MIT News – Autism Study
    Sample, Ian. “Studies of Autism Tend to Exclude Women, Researchers Find.” MIT News, Massachusetts Institute of Technology.
  2. ADHD in Girls and Boys Study
    ADHD in Girls and Boys – Gender Differences in Co-Existing Symptoms and Executive Function Measures. National Library of Medicine.
  3. Gender Differences in Special Educational Needs Identification
    Daniel, Lucy. “Gender Differences in Special Educational Needs Identification.” Review of Education, vol. 11, no. 3, 2023, Wiley Online Library, https://doi.org/10.1002/rev3.3464.
  4. Cleveland Clinic – Neurodivergent Definition
    “Neurodivergent.” Cleveland Clinic, https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/symptoms/23154-neurodivergent. Accessed [your access date].

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Compassion: A learned skill https://www.girlspring.com/compassion-a-learned-skill/ https://www.girlspring.com/compassion-a-learned-skill/#respond Sun, 30 Nov 2025 18:00:34 +0000 https://www.girlspring.com/?p=35919 We all have a moment in our life where we desperately wish someone would understand or empathize. Similarly, we all have probably...

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We all have a moment in our life where we desperately wish someone would understand or empathize.
Similarly, we all have probably been in a situation where we wish we could understand someone’s pain. It’s not uncommon and it is definitely not anyone’s fault. But it is a problem we can learn to solve.

Compassion for most of us exists as a way to showcase our vulnerability and care for others. One might say some people are simply “kind,” others aren’t. But in truth, compassion isn’t an innate gift granted to the lucky few. It’s a learned, practiced skill – one that requires effort, awareness, and, above all, choice.

The Myth of Natural Kindness

We celebrate achievements of merit, academics, sports but never empathy. Schools teach us how to think but rarely how to feel. When someone displays deep understanding or forgiveness, it’s considered miraculous: an exception instead of a necessary act. We live in a paradoxical age: more connected than ever, yet more emotionally detached. So the idea that people aren’t able to be there for each other is not a surprise.

One of the first lessons in compassion is to separate it from pity. Pity looks down; compassion looks across. To feel for others we cannot limit ourselves to simply stating “I feel bad for you,” we need to look beyond to understanding their whys and hows. True compassion refuses to reduce others to their suffering; it sees them whole, capable, human. Judgement is easy to come by but understanding is a deliberate act that requires care and precision.

Our Competitive World

Kindness to many is a luxury, only afforded to those extraordinary or those who benefit from each other.
Success stories glorify ambition, self-interest, and resilience, not softness. But compassion is not the opposite of strength; it is a more sustainable form of it.

Leaders who inspire are those who listen, co-workers who make safer environments are those who empathize and deeper bonds are made from those who forgive. Compassion makes stability allowing communities and individuals to grow without breaking under comparison.

How Compassion is Learned

Compassion is a composition of small actions, gestures, genuine remorse.
You learn compassion when:

  • You’re wronged, and you choose not to retaliate.
  • You’re hurt, and you still choose to listen.
  • You realize that kindness is not a transaction, but a transformation.

The more we expose ourselves to different people, the more we find similarity in our struggles.

The Barriers

If compassion is a skill, an essential one, why is its existence so dull?

● Fear: caring makes us weak
● Pride: caring is not essential because the “chose it”
● Fatigue: caring is too exhausting

Society makes compassion seem soft, causing the cruelties of the world to make us hard. To remain kind is to rebel against apathy.

A Skill, A Choice, A Legacy

Compassion is not weakness, its bravery in comfort, in care, in vulnerability. Every time you listen instead of argue, forgive instead of retaliate, or reach out instead of retreat, you are practicing it.

Like any skill we master: it takes time, patience, dedication and a mindset to commit.

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The Factors of Grit https://www.girlspring.com/the-factors-of-grit/ https://www.girlspring.com/the-factors-of-grit/#respond Wed, 05 Nov 2025 17:57:35 +0000 https://www.girlspring.com/?p=35894 Below is an essay about grit, a characteristic and the title of a book by Angela Duckworth. If you don’t already know...

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Below is an essay about grit, a characteristic and the title of a book by Angela Duckworth. If you don’t already know a little about grit, Angela Duckworth briefly describes it as the combination of passion and perseverance. After reading her book, I describe it as a mix of passion, persistence, practice, effort, interest, purpose, hope, and a gritty community. Her book aims to prove that grit is the common denominator among successful people. I wrote this essay after reading the book for school, and I believe everyone should read her research. My essay discusses only a few factors of grit, so I highly recommend reading the book.

 

The Factors of Grit

“It was this combination of passion and perseverance that made high achievers special. In a word, they had grit.” – Angela Duckworth.

The book Grit follows Angela Duckworth’s study of grit, described as the mix of determination and passion, and was published in 2016. In the beginning of the book, she talks about her dad and their relationship. Her father told her that she was “no genius” and would not be successful because of it. However, Duckworth proved that talent is only a minor factor in grit. Other traits heavily outweigh pure talent. In the book, she discusses the many and varied ingredients of grit, as well as how it can be developed, not only in yourself but also in the people you care about. Duckworth writes about perseverance, discipline, passion, loyalty to your interests, and deliberate practice, and how these qualities create grit.

 

“The highly accomplished were paragons of perseverance.” 

On page eight of her book, Angela Duckworth discusses various psychological projects and the people involved in her studies, but most importantly, she emphasizes perseverance. Perseverance is a very important factor of grit. You must get back up when knocked down and not be discouraged by failure. Motivation and encouragement from failure are perseverance, using those experiences as stepping stones towards greatness and improvement. Perseverance, determination, and grit go hand in hand. In terms of grit, perseverance signifies overcoming complex tasks or emotional hardships because you are loyal to a single long-term goal.

 

On page 64, Duckworth states, “What I mean by passion is not just that you have something you care about. What I mean is that you care about that same ultimate goal in an abiding, loyal, steady way.” In the book Grit, passion, and holding on to your interests are key aspects of Angela’s research. Being gritty is not only about persevering and getting yourself back up when you’re down, but also about longevity and consistency. Having grit doesn’t mean doing something effortfully for only a year or two. It means working hard over many years to make meaningful improvements. Overall, passion is a very key element of grit, and it comes after discovering your interest.

 

On page 126 of Grit, Duckworth writes that, “Deliberate practice predicted advancing to further rounds in competition far better than any other kind of preparation.” In terms of grit, ‘deliberate practice’ essentially means actively paying attention to what you’re doing and looking for ways to improve. Deliberate practice requires complete focus and entrapment by the task at hand. Doing intentional practice pushes you to success and greatness. Doing deliberate practice takes perseverance to endure the hard activities that help you get better. People who practice deliberately do it for the rewards afterwards. For most grit paragons, this is a state of calmness and serenity, called ‘flow’. In summary, deliberate practice is an essential part of grit and building a path to success.

 

Angela Duckworth’s Grit is revolutionary research on success and its cultivation, discussing factors of grit such as perseverance, passion, and practice. Getting up when you are down and staying determined in the face of failure are qualities of gritty people. They have a passion — one that is independent, long-term, and overall — a goal they strive to achieve throughout their career. However, their mindset when it comes to failure and mistakes is not the only things that make a gritty person. They do focused, intentional, deliberate practice, with only improvement in mind. Grit is the common denominator among successful people, and each of its factors serves a different purpose.

 

 

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Peer Pressure (& How to Not Fall for It) https://www.girlspring.com/peer-pressure-how-to-not-fall-for-it/ https://www.girlspring.com/peer-pressure-how-to-not-fall-for-it/#respond Thu, 04 Sep 2025 02:17:40 +0000 https://www.girlspring.com/?p=35264 Peer pressure appears under layers of niceties and pretenses that disguise bad actions as innocent suggestions. It starts small. A drink you...

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Peer pressure appears under layers of niceties and pretenses that disguise bad actions as innocent suggestions. It starts small. A drink you didn’t want. A purchase you couldn’t afford. A “yes” when every part of you wanted to say “no.”

In these moments, there is a split second where one decides to conform or reject the pressure. The cycle goes, the more you agree, the easier it is to agree the next time. These tiny compromises slowly chip away at your sense of self as opposed to one big moment of weakness.

At its Core

Peer pressure, fundamentally, is a form of influence, whether good or bad. A spoken word or a silent nudge biased towards a specific action aimed to align with others instead of yourself.

We like to think that peer pressure is a teenage thing; it goes beyond that, and it becomes smarter, a lot more mature. From bad parties, bad people, and bad choices to overspending, overindulging, and overcommitting– peer pressure can influence anyone from any age group.

It’s not by definition a bad thing. For example, being around ambitious, intelligent people motivates someone to work harder and be better. Peer pressure becomes a problem when one action crosses a line, an action you normally wouldn’t do, an action that reflects what people want you to be rather than who you are.

The Subtle Art of Saying Yes (When You Mean No)

Peer pressure works because it preys on something deeply human– our need to belong. Our sense of belonging allows us to feel comfortable with those around us, but it comes at a cost. Think of the last time you said yes to someone reluctantly. The decision, though fleeting, had a sour aftertaste: resentment, guilt, regret.

The expectation to say yes when so many people are involved is what prompts responses, which eventually reduces down to one person asking. The trouble with saying yes to others is that habits stick. You start outsourcing your decisions, silencing your instincts, and eventually, you stop trusting your own judgment.

Your gut instincts are the ones you truly should always rely on. Even the slightest negative feeling should prompt you out of unsafe situations, as it is truly better to be safe than to deal with the consequences of giving in. Peer pressure never disappears. People will always have an opinion on how you should live your life because, in their eyes, it is the right way. The real change comes from trusting your inside voice, ensuring it doesn’t get drowned in the eruption of cheers when you say yes.

Questions to ask yourself before saying Yes

Do I wanna do this, or do I want to fit in?

Is the “Yes” from desire or fear?

If no one was watching or judging, would I still choose this?

Saying NO!

Rejecting an idea or action does not have to be dramatic or spiteful; it is simply not your place to be doing that action, so in your right, you can say no to the question. It also doesn’t need to be accompanied by an apology or promises to make amends. “No.” is a complete sentence. Refusing peer pressure should be done calmly and with confidence.

“No, that doesn’t work for me.”

“I have different priorities at the moment.”

“I don’t think I can right now.”

The world will not end when you say no to someone. In fact, because you are now given the freedom to do what you want, the world might just begin. Yes, not all peer pressure is bad. Oftentimes, it’s another person wanting to spend time with you. A true friend would ask you what you want to do instead of getting offended or throwing a fit and judging.

Redefine Belonging

At the end of the day, your oldest and closest companion is always yourself. Peer pressure challenges you, your identity, and your sense of self. Conforming essentially means betraying that. Does belonging really justify betraying yourself?

NO is never about conditional friendships and understanding. It’s about being understood for who you are. You do not really belong if you have to change yourself. Your life is not going to get bigger and better when you say yes to everything; it will definitely be more enriched if you say yes to the right things.

The best thing sometimes is smiling kindly at the crowd, saying a pleasant “No,” and making your way home safely.

Read more about how peer pressure can affect safety here!

 

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Three Affirmations to Tell Yourself When Feeling Down https://www.girlspring.com/three-affirmations-to-tell-yourself-when-feeling-down/ https://www.girlspring.com/three-affirmations-to-tell-yourself-when-feeling-down/#respond Wed, 27 Aug 2025 00:42:57 +0000 https://www.girlspring.com/?p=35096 The cost of procrastination is the life you could’ve led: This affirmation is one of my personal favorites, because it really helps...

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The cost of procrastination is the life you could’ve led:

This affirmation is one of my personal favorites, because it really helps me think about procrastination and what I should be doing instead. It’s also a great affirmation to start the school year with; it enables you to acknowledge and realize how costly procrastination really is. I want you to think of and visualize your dream life, your dream car, house, wardrobe, etc., and imagine the dream version of you who has all of those things. Did she procrastinate throughout the entire process of achieving those things? Look up to that dream version of you and try to make her proud by not procrastinating.

I’m the main character in my own story:

For me, this affirmation is just refreshing to hear, even if I am the one saying it. This affirmation is so powerful because it’s so easy to get off track in your own life. The “main character” doesn’t care what people think. She doesn’t care that someone said they didn’t like her outfit last Tuesday, because she understands that this belief makes her a side character in her own life. By valuing others’ opinions more than her own, she makes other people more important to her than she is to herself. It makes them the main character in her story, rather than herself. So, you need to remember that sometimes you are the main character in your own story.

Everything will be okay in the end, if it’s not okay, then it’s not the end:

Friend break-ups, getting a bad grade on a test, and worrying about what’s going to happen after your mom sees you on your phone after midnight are all things that feel like the end of the world. It is easy to get caught up in bad situations by telling yourself that it’s the end or that you cannot do anything to change the situation. This mindset does not help the situation and perpetuates the cycle. That mindset of “It’s the end!!!” prevents you from texting your friend saying you’re sorry, from retaking your test or studying harder for the next one, or asking your mom to be grounded from your phone for only a couple of days, not a week. Overall, it’s essential to remind yourself that everything will ultimately be okay and that you can always take steps to help yourself navigate your issues.

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Self Care for Stressed-Out Students: 5 Tips for Staying on Track https://www.girlspring.com/self-care-for-stressed-out-students-5-tips-for-staying-on-track/ https://www.girlspring.com/self-care-for-stressed-out-students-5-tips-for-staying-on-track/#comments Fri, 15 Aug 2025 21:07:59 +0000 https://www.girlspring.com/?p=34089 Being a student is, for some, the busiest time of their life. Juggling a social life, academic studies, a part time job...

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Being a student is, for some, the busiest time of their life. Juggling a social life, academic studies, a part time job and your general mental health is something a lot of students struggle to do. Many people feel as if they’re drowning in what life throws at them—but in order to thrive in the fast-paced life of a student, personal care is what enables you to keep going. Self-care is essential to being at your best for all aspects of life, and below are the five best tips for doing just that. 

  1. Setting Aside ‘Me-Time’

As students studying a Graduate Diploma of Psychology know, ensuring you have alone-time is a great way to keep you centered. Hobbies and maintenance days being the most ideal way to really take care of yourself, there’s nothing wrong with a small chunk of time before bed or in the morning for just yourself. Some quick ways to do this include; a quick yoga session in the morning, nightly reading in bed, putting in that extra effort in cooking your dinner or even just lying down with your eyes closed and going over the day in your head. 

 

Being in such a fast paced world can be more than overwhelming, but making sure you have ‘me-time’ everyday, no matter how much, can be the difference you need getting through the week. 

  1. Keep A Personalised Routine 

There is no ‘student routine’ that fits everyone, with your schedules constantly changing, with financial constraints and just general lack of energy, it can be quite hard keeping up healthy habits and staying consistent. Instead of beating yourself up over what you can’t do, the best way to make a personalised routine is giving yourself options, and working around your hardest tasks of the day.  Instead of planning out  a day routine, it may work better if you make a weekly routine, giving yourself rest at the end of each day. 

 

For example, Mondays could be maintenance days, that could be for personal care, cleaning the house, tending to your plants, grocery shopping, etc. There is never any pressure to do anything after a long day of classes and work, so leaving the essential tasks for slow weekends or days off may be the best time management plan for your wellbeing. 

  1. Social Events Must Stay On Your Schedule 

It’s hard to keep up with friends, as schedules don’t align, or on the days you are free, you just don’t feel up to seeing anyone. While it’s best for you to listen to your body and mind, it’s also crucial to incorporate something social at least a few times a week. The importance of keeping in touch with family and friends is great as it impacts our general mental health without us realising it. 

 

Being too tired to go out for dinner doesn’t mean you can’t phone them up and chat about your lives while you take a relaxing bath, or if you find yourself not catching up with friends because you need to study, you could ask if they’d like to join you. Just being in someone’s presence makes a big difference in your mood and overall well-being, making it a crucial part of our everyday lives that must be catered for. 

 

  1. Get Active (Not Just Going for a Run)

If you’re someone who’s able to hit the gym, run, or get to those dance classes a few times a week, the only thing you need to know is that you should keep those activities a priority. 

 

But if you’re someone who’s finding it difficult to make time to move your body, that’s okay too. Getting active doesn’t always mean going to the gym, your active part of the day could be stretching in the morning, or walking to your campus from the station instead of taking the tram. It could be making the mindful decision that maybe you should walk to the places you need to go instead of taking a quick bus or tram a few mins down the road. While this may not easily fit into your schedule, it’s adopting the mentality of finding exercise in your everyday life, no matter how small, that could make you feel just that little bit better. 

 

  1. Eating Well

As a student, there is nothing harder than keeping a healthy diet, with finances being a big factor of why you may not achieve this. A good, cost effective way to keep healthier foods in your diet is picking a few easy recipes and incorporating them in your diet weekly. Meal prepping for the week is also a great way to eat healthy with a busy student schedule. 

 

Balancing student life demands prioritising self-care, which includes setting aside ‘me-time,’ maintaining a personalised routine, socialising, staying active, and eating well to thrive amidst academic, social, and work commitments.

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From Motivation to Mindset: Shift your Mindset from Summer to School https://www.girlspring.com/from-motivation-to-mindset/ https://www.girlspring.com/from-motivation-to-mindset/#respond Sat, 09 Aug 2025 14:40:22 +0000 https://www.girlspring.com/?p=21935 If you’re anything like me, you’re probably experiencing some difficulty in terms of the transition from summer to school. Not only is...

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If you’re anything like me, you’re probably experiencing some difficulty in terms of the transition from summer to school. Not only is the shift a physical one, it has a lot to do with mentality and mindset. 

Mindset Matters.

Here are some tips to transform your mindset into productive and self-care oriented.

Make a loose schedule and stick to it.

I’m not saying that you need to map out every single second of every day. However, I find it helpful to have a general idea as to how I want to go about my day. Tying into this point, make sure you have an agenda to keep track of your assignments! It is so easy to forget an assignment if you don’t write it down. 

My second tip is one that, until recently, I completely underestimated.

Get enough sleep!

Last year, I would go to sleep at 2am and get up for school fifteen minutes before I had to be out the door. Although I was able to push and make it through the week, it wasn’t sustainable and I was under a constant state of exhaustion. It was only until I had a healthy sleep schedule that I realized just how much more productive and energetic I could be. Go through the trouble of setting timers and sticking to them and have your day set up in a way so that you can get to bed at a good time!

This next tip is probably one of the most important

Challenge yourself, but don’t push it and don’t be a perfectionist. In school and life, it is important to get out of your comfort zone. Challenging yourself allows you to grow. However, there is a very thin line between a healthy amount of growth and something that turns stressful and implements perfectionism. It is important that you know your limits and that you don’t push them too much. Remember that your mental health is crucial to getting your best work done. It needs to be a priority. One thing that I like to do when feeling overwhelmed is host a little movie night with myself. I watch a comfort movie while eating whatever snacks are in my house at the moment. It helps me wind down and relax. 

Have a Balance – It’s Crucial!

This next piece of advice is crucial to having your best school year: have a balance. Don’t spend your whole day doing homework, but don’t spend the entire day avoiding it either. For the purpose of your mental health, you want to make sure you are getting in a little bit of everything in your day. Get in some time with friends, get in some time for homework and studying, and give yourself time for you and your hobbies (whatever they may be). 

What I have to say here is something that I never would have imagined coming out of my mouth, but get physical exercise. Now, I am nowhere near being the most athletic person in the room. In fact, sports and athletics are probably one of the things I am the worst at. However, I have noticed how getting some exercise, or even just a little bit of sun, has completely changed the course of my day for the better. I end up feeling much more energized and it always puts me in a better mood. It’s not like I do much exercise either. I go on twenty minute walks or do a ten minute workout. It is nothing special, but I always end up feeling better in the end. 

These tips are only the beginning.

While they will help you get your life together and prepare you for school, a lot of it has to do with your own mindset. When I look at my 8th grade self versus my 9th grade self, for example, that is where I see one of the greatest differences. When 8th grade had started out for me, I was unmotivated. I got all my work done, but it was never at its best and I found myself constantly dragging and exhausted. My mindset was in the wrong place. I was looking at school from a place of constant negativity and I was making excuses for myself to avoid working. When 9th grade rolled around, I decided that I would change things up a little bit. Even though it took some hard work, I turned my mindset around. I woke up earlier and I made time for myself. I tried being more balanced and it made me see both life and school from a more positive perspective. 

Mindset Makeover

To be able to do this, you have to know yourself. Knowing what makes you energized and motivated and knowing what (or who) drags you down are both extremely important. Being aware of these makes it so that you can be in more control of your life’s outcome. 

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